How do I let a guy know that I am into him?

Taylor,
I met a guy online and didn't know if I was going to be into him or not.  We arranged for a meeting in a message session (I am a message therapist).  He ended up really enjoying the session and it seems he would want another one.  However, as I ended up liking him, it was unclear how he felt about me and possibly dating.  At the end, he said,"yeah we need to get together and have tea" I'm not sure if that is a brush off or not. I want to let him know that I didn't want to take his money 'cause I was interested in him. He also invited me to call him for tea sometime, but I think he needs to make the next move.
Let me know what you think, and what I should do.

Thanks, JJ

Dear JJ, 

You're instinct is correct.  The guy needs to always make the move.  A common misconception with women these days seems to be that they can move a guy along with a little encouragement by making his moves for him.  However the truth is, unless you have rejected him, he needs no encouragement.  This is simple, if he is interested in you, he will call you.  You don't need to worry about "clarifying" anything for him.  Don't DO anything.  Just BE.  Be receptive and sweet and he may come around. I can tell you right now that him "inviting you to call him for tea sometime" does not look too promising.  The best thing you can to do for your case at this point is to ABSOLUTELY not call him.  If he calls you to schedule another appt and it takes it just there, than you have your answer.  If something materializes in the future, it won't be because you made any moves.

And JJ, remember, don't give him any ideas on whereor when you can go, don't be available the first time he asks you - then when you tell him you're not available "Friday" night, don't give any alternatives... wait for him to think of the next available time to meet, then say "that sounds nice."  ;)  Stick to these simple guidelines and when the next guy comes along who is willing to make the effort, you won't have to be wondering if he's into you.  Trust me, it feels good and it's worth it.  You are worth it.

There it is straight up.

Taylor

My Nervy X

Hi Taylor; My ex-boyfriend of 3 years left me in January. Within a few months I found out that he was engaged! Then married already in June! It seems everything he did with her were the plans I thought of with him; from the date to the honeymoon! I want to know if I should do anything to let him know how nervy it is of him to use my dreams and wishes with another girl. She is even wearing the ring that I picked out. What do you think?... m

Dear M,

I chose this picture as it epitomizes what would essentially be happening should you choose to let this man know how you feel. As you can tell from the man's posture, it goes in one ear and out the other - your efforts would be in vain. Ask yourself one question: What are you focusing your energy on? Apparently your relationship was not meant to be... so where are you now? How are you focusing your valuable time and energy on your life and future?

Obviously, this man's actions are despicable and although the anger you must feel toward him is completely understandable, certainly you can heed to the wisdom in disciplining your emotions to forgive him. Let go and be free. Pray for the strength if you must as this is not an easy task.

Bottom line: He is living his life and I suggest you do the same - for your sake.